The Toughest Lessons We Learned the Hard Way

By | September 13, 2015

When you are married, you will face many challenges. It is much easier to get divorced than to stay married. Marriage requires work that many are not interested in doing. Along the way, you must learn about sacrifice, commitment, anger, frustration and a host of other emotions. If you are not prepared, your marriage can fail. If you are willing to work on your marriage daily, you will succeed. Below are a few examples of the toughest lessons we have learned the hard way throughout our decades of marriage.

 
Money Matters
Finances are a big deal in marriage and are a leading cause of divorce. If you are not prepared to work with your spouse on the financial situation of your family, you are doomed to have issues. We found this out the hard way. You have to learn how to curb spending and think about your monthly bills before making any large purchases. When you are not on the same page with finances, you can easily find yourself in a hole, one that is hard to climb out of. Discuss your plans financially to ensure you do not have any issues as you begin your life together in regards to money

 
Insure, Insure, Insure
Insurance is a big part of marriage. From the home to life insurance, you require various types to protect yourself and your property. Be smart early in your marriage. Have your home and automobiles properly covered. Health insurance and life insurance are a must. Pay less for your medical expenses with quality health insurance and have a plan for death or illness by having life insurance started at a young age, to avoid paying too much on a monthly basis. The amount to insure yourself for life can be extremely high the longer you wait. Be smart and have yourself covered early.

 
Being Right is Not Always Right
Learn that you do not always have to be right. In any argument, learn how to walk away or concede. Just because you may be right in your argument, does not mean you keep arguing for the sake of being right. As a married couple, you will fight about major things such as finances and stupid stuff like whose turn it is to wash the dishes. Learn how to pick and choose your battles so that you are not sleeping on the couch or going without seeing your spouse for days on end due to a major blowout!

 
Smart Purchases
Tying in with the financial side of marriage is making smart purchases. Always have a family budget. Keep track of how much money you have coming in and how much money you have going out. This way, you can be smart about any purchases that need to be made. Many individuals enjoy dining out or having a morning coffee each day. You have to be sure this will fit into the budget. If not, you may not be able to afford that new house or car payment.

 
You must consider the payment for a large purchase or the effect of spending a ton of money on a television or new sound system. By acting in the right manner with your new purchases, you will stay out of debt which means no fighting with your spouse!

 
Following our advice is sure to help you as you embark on a new marriage. Being married is a lovely adventure that is sure to have bumps along the way. It is the way you handle these bumps that will determine if you will be successful in your union or if you will fail. Take care to nurture your marriage, making smart decisions along the way to enjoy your time with your loved one.